Dear Abby: My boyfriend scolds me in public — and makes me apologize to strangers

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DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend embarrassed me when he instructed me to apologize to a lady standing behind him in line on the market. He was about to pay for the groceries once I stated I’d run to get an merchandise I had forgotten. It took lower than a minute, and the order was nonetheless being rung up.

After I went again to incorporate the merchandise, he ordered me loudly to apologize to the lady standing in line behind him. Abby, he was nonetheless paying! She wasn’t even in line once I went to get the mustard. As a result of he was nonetheless there, I assumed he had instructed her he was ready for me.

It’s not the primary time he’s executed one thing like this. I don’t assume I did something unsuitable, and even when I did, he might have instructed me privately and never made me really feel like a misbehaving youngster. I might really feel totally different if we had left the checkout line, however he hadn’t. I assumed he was holding the road for me. — NOT A CHILD IN FLORIDA

DEAR NOT A CHILD: If there had been a protracted line, I can perceive that working again to fetch the mustard might need brought about a severe inconvenience. As a result of there wasn’t, your boyfriend mustn't have embarrassed you the way in which he did. Because it wasn’t the primary time he has executed one thing like this, assume that he derives satisfaction from doing it. Assume exhausting about whether or not you actually need a future with a associate like him. (I do know I wouldn’t.)

DEAR ABBY: I've hemifacial spasm (HFS), a comparatively uncommon dysfunction characterised by random and uncontrollable spasms on one aspect of the face. HFS can typically be alleviated by surgical procedure and/or handled with Botox injections. HFS makes social contact difficult when the face contorts for no obvious motive, typically with accompanying speech slurring.

In my case, surgical procedure was unsuccessful, and my solely possibility is Botox, which leaves one eye wider open and my mouth unable to maneuver naturally or smile on one aspect. I’m studying to just accept this facial asymmetry as my new regular, however I’m not there but.

I’m self-conscious about having my photograph taken, however camera-wielders insist and persist. Are you able to assist me with a response I can use to these photo-takers who refuse to take no for a solution, or worse, inform me to “simply smile,” one thing I can not do? — SELF-CONSCIOUS IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR SELF-CONSCIOUS: I've a number of solutions about your downside. The primary is that not everyone seems to be equally gifted in administering Botox. Is the particular person administering yours a dermatologist? Whether or not the reply to this query is sure or no, it would profit you to seek the advice of a couple of.

Since you are delicate about having your image taken, level out to the picture-taker that both you favor to not be photographed, and why, or clarify that you just WILL NOT be smiling for apparent causes.

One other thought: Take into account positioning your self so your extra photogenic aspect faces the digital camera, as many celebrities do when they're requested to pose.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.